Deep Thought: Attraction

Though I hate introductions, as previously noted, I assume I should let you get a little backstory on me. As of this writing I'm 18 years old, lives with my mom, her boyfriend and step-siblings, unemployed and in school. I can't dance, I sweat a lot, I'm short and I'm a geek. Not that all the negatives are out of the way, I have some positives if you can believe it. I like to think of myself as a charismatic guy, I can talk my way into and out of most things, good or bad. I'm a great listener, when it's something important and I think I'm trustworthy. My entire character seems to be based around social interaction, and I'm good at what i do, but I have one major flaw in most people's eyes. I have a tremendous overbite. I don't think it's bad, but in this "Cosmetically Perfect" society we live in it's hare to fit, which is understandable to an extent. You'd rather look at someone attractive than not, which is the basis for this writing. What is "attraction"?

By definition attraction is some object, situation, feeling, etc., or another person, that causes enjoyment. But can you be attracted to something unattractive? As I said I have an overbite, I've had it all my life, it's normal to me which in my brain makes it not unattractive or attractive by default. Based on self-esteem I can either love or hate it, that's simple. For others it's equally simple. Since it is majority of the time not encountered and unappealing it is unattractive. But with exposure can it become attractive? And if so will it be the overbite becoming attractive, or other factors becoming more or less attractive that is shifting focus from it somewhere else. For example if I gave someone a picture of my face and sat them in a blank room would that person grow to find it attractive or would it's disposition stay the same, or even worsen? Now what if I as a person was put in the room as well, free to engage with the subject? Would the overbite be improving it's own disposition by exposure, or would my character and other factors help it's cause by getting better or worse in the subjects eyes? I see "attraction" as a set of positive through negative sliders, an overall slider based on the object, and sliders based on the individual features of the object. Let's take a face as an example. If you think the face is attractive then the slider is in the positive region, higher based on how attractive you find it. Though the face is attractive, you may find a certain feature unattractive, bringing its disposition down, along with the overall, but unaffecting the other sliders. All of this is hopefully making sense, but now follow me deeper.


-Eye Break-


I've mainly been talking about physical attraction, liking what you see., but what about emotional attraction? I see emotional attraction as liking what something represents in it's actions and beliefs. Emotional and Physical attraction are also in most cases held separate of each other, case in point thinking someone is pretty but not liking their attitude. But is it possible for them to cross effect each other? Can liking some one's personality more make you like their physical more? Can a person's character effect how you perceive they look? If so that means that there's a link between these two forms of attraction, making either two directly linked sliders, or a third slider all together for "Total Attraction". Also is it possible to be fully attracted to both aspect, or is there a balance to which attraction is based on. For sake of ease think of it like a sandwich. The Emotional and Physical sliders are the bread, and the individual features being what you put in. If you put too much in it's not much of a sandwich that's edible, as your mouth wouldn't be able to chew into and contain all the flavorings in between. But if you pick and choose your fillings you begin to tailor a sandwich to your liking. Is it that way with people and interactions? Is that first appearance with a person the initial sandwich, and through interaction to we take away and put into what we started to make something easier to agree with? If so when do we finally stop adding and subtracting and eat? When does the mind, heart and soul stop to enjoy what it made of it's perception of the subject? And if the soul does stop, is it possible to make a new sandwich, a revised sandwich based on prior knowledge? These are the questions that haunt me, that nag at my heart because I think I know the answers, but in my life as of now they don't fit to what I want. I know deep down the answers pertaining to my daily situations but I try as hard as I can to disprove myself. *sigh* That's just some thoughts I had to put down, feel free to theorize all you want, these are what I believe.

Written at 16.